It has been more than 3 years since the incident with a student that I called as minah-t-test-tak-tahu. At times, some of my colleagues notice that I still cannot let the incident gets off my mind. Well, I can forgive, but never forget. This is my art of letting go.
Learning Adjustment Psychology with Amber Hague taught me to improvise things when “things” happen in life. Even though I create a case based on the incident which later on I use in my Personality Psychology class on regular basis (her case is the “must” discussed case) as a mean of healing, some colleagues consider it as an unhealthy endeavor.
Well, I read somewhere that to change negative emotion to positive is the best way of healing. HOW? Channeling negative thoughts and act into something productive and positive. In my case, rather than concocting revenge on the student and her family (this is a normal reaction but it is negative thought), I choose to do something more productive such as crafting cases for discussion in class and such (this is positive and productive act). I am struggling to find research findings on this approach for a while. After searching for a while, finally, I find an article about it from Psychology Today.
