Life is full of challenges. Sometimes, we fail to achieve what we have hoped for. If that happens, we feel miserable because our hopes are crushed. We think our lives are meaningless and there is nothing worth to live for. However, failing in something does not mean that we are a failure.
When we face failure or setback, we have two choices. First, we can lie down and stay there in misery. Second, we can choose to learn from our failures or setbacks and get on with life. The choice is really ours. But if we choose the latter, what should we do next?
We must change our attitude towards failure. Everyone at some point faces failure in their personal life or career. Thus, we must learn to be resilient and strong. We must stop having self-pity, even though life is hard at that time. But we must always remember that we are not alone in facing failures, setbacks or challenges (whatever you want to call it) in life. Other too have face problems and sometimes they also have it really bad. So, if we continue to feel miserable, cry or sulk over a long period of time, others will not care about us after a while. We will lose their sympathy and concern. So, do not wallow in our misery for a long time. Set a time to allow ourselves to feel sad or miserable but after we reach the dateline, move forward and live on.
Remember to stay positive (even though it might be difficult at times). Do not blame others for our failure. Look at other ways of achieving our dreams. Change our strategies if we have to. Be sure to surround ourselves with cheerful, supportive and caring people. Negative people will get us down and feeling hopeless towards ourselves.
In addition, do not work alone. Get help and advice from others if we face with difficulty or if we need to brainstorm some ideas. There are many people who are expert in certain fields or those who have undergone similar setbacks before. We will lose nothing by talking with them about our difficulty. Talking to others and getting help makes life easier or bearable.
Lastly, when life tosses us some hard knocks, do not act as it we are the only one with problems. Do not make a big deal about it. Get up from our failures or setbacks and move on. Take the first step forward. We will be alright.
P.S: I found this article from one of the files that I used when I did my Latihan Ikhtisas. I don’t remember when I wrote this or if I took it from somewhere. But I think I used this for my form 4 class (Directed Writing).