Don’t let your emotion cloud your judgement.

– American Assassin-

Use your Heart, Ears and Eyes

On 17 July 2020, I wrote ‘we see with eyes, listen with our ears and sense with our heart for efficacious communication’, which I got from the Chinese drama entitled Qin Empire: Alliance. Interestingly this morning I came across the verse 2:7 in the Quran which means the same thing.  For people who don’t want to believe in the Quran, Allah has sealed their heart, ears and eyes so that they will never be able to understand. This thus proves that these three sensory abilities are extremely important for us to completely understand what is going on around us.

Al-Baqarah 2:7
خَتَمَ ٱللَّهُ عَلَىٰ قُلُوبِهِمْ وَعَلَىٰ سَمْعِهِمْۖ وَعَلَىٰٓ أَبْصَٰرِهِمْ غِشَٰوَةٌۖ وَلَهُمْ عَذَابٌ عَظِيمٌ

Allah has set a seal upon their hearts and upon their hearing, and over their vision is a veil. And for them is a great punishment.

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Hubungan manusia dan kebodohan adalah sesuatu yang menarik untuk dikaji. Ada orang yang memang bodoh dan tahu dia bodoh, ada yang bodoh tapi tak tahu yang dia bodoh. Ini golongan bodoh tak boleh diajar, cerdik tak boleh diikut. Ada yang berpura-pura bodoh, ada yang berlakun bodoh (buat bodo), ada yang boleh diperbodohkan, ada yang pandai memperbodohkan.

Pada suatu hari, Si Bodoh yang tidak tahu dianya bodoh cuba memperbodohkan yang berpura-pura bodoh. Si berpura-pura bodoh cuba menolong Si Bodoh. Tanpa disangka-sangka Si Bodoh diperbodohkan oleh Si berpura-pura bodoh. Si berlakun bodoh melihat kebodohan masing-masing dengan senyum sinis 😬.

In our daily life we might come across two people, who are at loggerheads, let say A and B.  The third party, C, comes in and shows favours towards B. B feels special whilst A feels dissapointed. But, neither A nor B knows the real intention of C. Without realising B  has become the prey to the cunning C.  The Malay idiom for this is ‘keluar mulut buaya masuk mulut naga’, which has the same meaning with ‘out of the frying pan into the fire’.  By which A is the buaya 🐊 or frying pan 🍳 and C is the naga 🐉 or fire 🔥.

If you were A and could see the real C, would you tell B of the C’s evil intention or would you just keep it to yourself 🤫?

Interpersonal Intelligence

According to Gardner, Interpersonal Intelligence is the ability to understand other people: what motivates them, how they work, how to work cooperatively with them.  Successful salesperson, politicians, teachers, clinicians, and religious leaders are all likely to be individuals with high degrees of interpersonal intelligence.

Interpersonal Intelligence includes the capacities to discern and respond appropriately to the moods, temperaments, motivations, and desires of other people.

Daniel Goleman, 1995. Emotional Intelligence. New York: Bantam Books. Page 44.

I am intrigued to know whether the Quran has ever mentioned about emotional intelligence and therefore I searched for the info on the google. To my amazement, there is a paper entitled ‘UNDERSTANDING EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE IN THE LIGHT OF QURANIC WISDOM AND PROPHETIC TRADITIONS’ which I would like to share here.

‘People who are emotionally adept – who know and manage their feelings well, and who read and deal effectively with other people’s feelings – are at an advantage in any domain of life’.

‘People with well-developed emotional skills are also more likely to be content and effective in their lives, mastering the habits of mind that foster their own productivity; people who cannot marshal some control over their emotional life fight inner battles that sabotage their ability for focused work and clear thought’.


Daniel Goleman, 1995. Emotional Intelligence. New York: Bantam Books. Page 38-39.

Academic intelligence offers virtually no preparation for the turmoil – or opportunity – life’s vicissitudes bring.  Yet even though a high IQ is no guarantee of prosperity, prestige, or happiness in life, our schools and our culture fixate on academic abilities, ignoring emotional intelligence, a set of traits – some might call it character – that also matters immensely for our personal destiny.

Daniel Goleman, 1995. Emotional Intelligence. New York: Bantam Books. Page 38.

In a sense we have two brains, two minds – and two different kinds of intelligence: rational and emotional.  How we do in life is determined by both – it is not just IQ, but emotional intelligence that matters.  Indeed, intellect cannot work at its best without emotional intelligence.

Daniel Goleman, 1995. Emotional Intelligence. New York: Bantam Books. Page 32.

‘Emotion is so crucial to effective thought, both in making wise decisions and in simply allowing us to think clearly’ and ‘that is why when we are emotionally upset and we say we just can’t think straight’- and why continual emotional distress can create deficits in child’s intellectual abilities, crippling the capacity to learn’.

Daniel Goleman, 1995. Emotional Intelligence. New York:  Bantam  Books. Page 30