I watched a Chinese drama called Princess Weiyoung and there is something that I learnt from the drama. There are different types of people; genuinely kind and honest, crystal clear evil or dare devil and the third group is the cunning ones. Combating the crystal clear evil is way much better than the cunning ones. A cunning and sly person can appear as your friend, who is doing something for your own good but actually the evil intention is laid underneath which you won’t be able to see, just like the iceberg theory. Beware, guard yourself from falling into the hypocrite’s trap.
When things don’t go your way
Read this dua, to calm yourself down.
when things get out of your hands
Sometimes, trivial things, which are not worth your attention, can go out of your hands. People are just waiting to do things out of their selfishness. When this happens, how will you manage the situation?
If it’s out of your hands, it deserves freedom from your mind too.
I believe this is the best thing for me to do at this point of time. Get them out of my mind.
Precautionary measures in communication
Open your mind before your mouth
The efficacy of communication
Even though you can’t please everyone, doesn’t mean you can hurt others.
“It’s important to make sure that we’re talking with each other in a way that heals, not in a way that wounds.”
To please or not to please?
I don’t know the key to success, but the key fo failure is trying to please everyone
To please Allah or to please …
The answer is very obvious
Rasulullah P.B.U.H said, “He who displeased Allah for seeking the pleasure of people, Allah is displeased with him and those people are also displeased, for pleasing whom he had earned Allah’s displeasure. And he who pleases Allah, although by it he displeased people, Allah is pleased with him, and also those people whom he had displeased for pleasing Allah become pleased with him. Allah makes him splendid and his speech and acts in the eyes of others beautiful.” [Tabarani]
To please those who are not pleased
My goodness. This task is not easy for leaders. The saying ‘you cannot please everyone’ is true. You might be able to please one person, but others might not be happy with you. Nonetheless, as leaders you cannot ignore them. More importantly, leaders must possess effective communication skills to comfort the unhappy ones. All the best.
Paul J. Meyer
Communication – the human connection – is the key to personal and career success – Paul J. Meyer
The greater the storm. The brighter you rainbow
writing a research article for publication
Some tips from Prof Dr Zuraidah Mohd Don.
- choose the right journal
- strong theory/ies
- sound research design
- good data
- correct analysis
Bear in mind to highlight – what you did, why you did, what you discovered, what you thing it means. All the best.
21 February 2021
It takes me almost 3 years to see the true colours.