Communicating with narcissists…

It is not easy to communicate with narcissists or people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). They always want to win, will never listen to others and one thing I learnt recently about narcissistic people is that they are good at lying 🤥.

What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)?

From the healthline website, there are 9 official criteria for NPD.

  • grandiose sense of self-importance
  • preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
  • belief they’re special and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people or institutions
  • need for excessive admiration
  • sense of entitlement
  • interpersonally exploitative behavior
  • lack of empathy
  • envy of others or a belief that others are envious of them
  • demonstration of arrogant and haughty behaviors or attitudes
The advise given by experts when dealing with NPD people is to ignore or to get rid of them. Simply because they won’t listen and always want to win. No point of talking to them unless you want to get yourself hurt.

“If your opponent is of choleric temper, seek to irritate him. Pretend to be weak, that he may grow arrogant.”― Sun Tzu

Sun Tzu’s Quote – Art Of War

65 Sun Tzu Quotes On The Art Of War, Love and Life (2019)

Win the War

H. Jackson Brown Jr. Quote: “Be willing to lose a battle in order to win the war.” (12 wallpapers) - Quotefancy

Our greatest enemy is not another but ourselves

The strong one lost and the weak one won, in the end, the humble man won the world

We can lose a hundred times, but we must gain the ultimate victory

A good emperor wins with morality and a cruel one with force

But both morality and force are needed for governance

We should use both force and morality to rule

– King’s War: Legend of Chu and Han (Chinese Drama) –


What’s in the title?

Fluffy titles are of no use

We still have no right to claim such titles

Self-conferred titles will only invite mockery

– King’s War: Legend of Chu and Han (Chinese Drama) –

Hail the Judge

Hail the Judge is a Chinese movie which was set with the Imperial China genre. Pao is a new young talented judge, who would like to expose the wrongdoing of corrupted officers.  A valuable lesson from his father, who was once a corrupted officer, is ‘if the corrupted officers are vicious, then the decent officers should be more vicious’.  Hehehehe, it takes a crook to fight a crook. But, one is a bad crook and another is a good crook.  There is a proverb in Malay, that is,  ‘baru kena buku dengan ruas’ which means ‘it serves you right’ or ‘you deserve it’.

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Don’t let your emotion cloud your judgement.

– American Assassin-

Hubungan manusia dan kebodohan adalah sesuatu yang menarik untuk dikaji. Ada orang yang memang bodoh dan tahu dia bodoh, ada yang bodoh tapi tak tahu yang dia bodoh. Ini golongan bodoh tak boleh diajar, cerdik tak boleh diikut. Ada yang berpura-pura bodoh, ada yang berlakun bodoh (buat bodo), ada yang boleh diperbodohkan, ada yang pandai memperbodohkan.

Pada suatu hari, Si Bodoh yang tidak tahu dianya bodoh cuba memperbodohkan yang berpura-pura bodoh. Si berpura-pura bodoh cuba menolong Si Bodoh. Tanpa disangka-sangka Si Bodoh diperbodohkan oleh Si berpura-pura bodoh. Si berlakun bodoh melihat kebodohan masing-masing dengan senyum sinis 😬.

Something to Ponder

See with your eyes

Listen with your ears

Sense with your heart

It takes three sensory components for efficacious communication.