Interpersonal Intelligence

According to Gardner, Interpersonal Intelligence is the ability to understand other people: what motivates them, how they work, how to work cooperatively with them.  Successful salesperson, politicians, teachers, clinicians, and religious leaders are all likely to be individuals with high degrees of interpersonal intelligence.

Interpersonal Intelligence includes the capacities to discern and respond appropriately to the moods, temperaments, motivations, and desires of other people.

Daniel Goleman, 1995. Emotional Intelligence. New York: Bantam Books. Page 44.

‘People who are emotionally adept – who know and manage their feelings well, and who read and deal effectively with other people’s feelings – are at an advantage in any domain of life’.

‘People with well-developed emotional skills are also more likely to be content and effective in their lives, mastering the habits of mind that foster their own productivity; people who cannot marshal some control over their emotional life fight inner battles that sabotage their ability for focused work and clear thought’.


Daniel Goleman, 1995. Emotional Intelligence. New York: Bantam Books. Page 38-39.

Academic intelligence offers virtually no preparation for the turmoil – or opportunity – life’s vicissitudes bring.  Yet even though a high IQ is no guarantee of prosperity, prestige, or happiness in life, our schools and our culture fixate on academic abilities, ignoring emotional intelligence, a set of traits – some might call it character – that also matters immensely for our personal destiny.

Daniel Goleman, 1995. Emotional Intelligence. New York: Bantam Books. Page 38.

In a sense we have two brains, two minds – and two different kinds of intelligence: rational and emotional.  How we do in life is determined by both – it is not just IQ, but emotional intelligence that matters.  Indeed, intellect cannot work at its best without emotional intelligence.

Daniel Goleman, 1995. Emotional Intelligence. New York: Bantam Books. Page 32.

‘Emotion is so crucial to effective thought, both in making wise decisions and in simply allowing us to think clearly’ and ‘that is why when we are emotionally upset and we say we just can’t think straight’- and why continual emotional distress can create deficits in child’s intellectual abilities, crippling the capacity to learn’.

Daniel Goleman, 1995. Emotional Intelligence. New York:  Bantam  Books. Page 30

Managing emotions

Neuropsychologists studying moods in patients with injuries to parts of the frontal lobes have determined that one of the tasks of the left frontal lobe is to act as a neural thermostat, regulating unpleasant emotions. The right prefrontal lobes are a seat of negative feelings like fear and aggression, while the left lobes keep those raw emotions in check, probably by inhibiting the right lobe.

Daniel Goleman. 1995.  Emotional Intelligence. New York: Bantam Books. Page 29.

Emotional Intelligence

I am intrigued with emotional intelligence and want to know more about its connection to human success.  There is no doubt that we can produce intelligent people, or people with high IQ, with the current education system, but sad to say we have seen many people with high IQ have low EQ.  The high IQ people are sometimes not as productive as we expected them to be. The main problems with them are related to human interaction. No matter how intelligent they are, the thing is they cannot be productive in isolation. Therefore the subject emotional intelligence attracts my attention and I would like to know how EQ can be embedded in our education system.  I have started reading on EQ and  guess what, I have to struggle with all neurosciences jargons like neocortex, limbic and amygdala. Piuuuuh never expected it is going to be this complex. Anyway, good luck to me and hope this will be a new interesting journey for me.

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For better or for worse, intelligence can come to nothing when the emotions hold sway

Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence

Anyone can become angry – that is easy.  But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not easy.